Surprise Emotions! What to do with them.

I was feeling emotional a couple of weeks ago for no apparent reason.

It may have been because of the lunar eclipse. Maybe it was due to fatigue or stress. It may have been because of a thought I was thinking, or because of a physical reason such as a chemical or hormonal imbalance.

The point is, I didn’t know why I felt like crying.

Because of my work as a mentor and SimplyHealed^™ practitioner, I know there are times when the best thing is to discover the reason and eliminate the cause.

But in this case, my attempts to identify reasons why I might be feeling the way I was, were actually making things worse!

I thought of how I regretted that I woke up later than I had wanted to that morning. I felt bad that I hadn’t spent more time with my children. I worried that I wasn’t supporting my husband the way he needed me to. On and on my thoughts went.

Searching for a reason caused me to emotionally start spiraling downward.

I finally realized the problem!

I was trying to assign cause to the way I was feeling. I was creating stories to explain the emotion.

When we ask ourselves “why,” the brain gets to work, trying to provide answers. But the answers it comes up with are often not accurate or true.

These stories that I was creating were just that, stories. They were not true and they were just adding fuel to the emotional fire.

Luckily it didn’t take me long to realize what was happening and I quickly stopped that direction of thinking and asked myself if it was possible to just allow myself to feel without assigning a reason?

The answer came to me, yes, and with that yes, suddenly the heaviness of the emotions lifted! I didn’t need to have a reason. I just needed to acknowledge and allow.

I had given myself permission to just feel.

Sometimes it is necessary to dig a bit deeper to release the underlying cause, but other times it’s enough to

• acknowledge the emotion
• give yourself permission to feel and
• let it go.

Isn’t that so much easier?

Before sinking under the weight of heavy emotions, ask yourself if all you need is to allow yourself to feel for a moment what you’re feeling without creating a story and then let that emotion go?

Try it the next time you’re feeling emotional without knowing why. See if that might be just the response you need.

With love,